Author: heathermhill@gmail.com

Eight Years Now

Eight years. Can’t even fathom it’s been 8 years tomorrow. I frequently watch the slideshow that Anna made for his funeral. I just watched it and re-studied the face that was once so familiar. I have a video of him laughing, the laugh that I frequently heard from the other room. Jon’s laugh was one of a kind. He laughed hardest at his own jokes and it was unforgettable. But, it’s not as familiar any longer. Speaking of laughter from the other room… so much time has gone by that hearing a man’s voice in the house used to...

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The Day My Dad Died

I am forever changed by this privilege.  I equate watching someone die to the experience of having a baby, you think you know what to expect, but until it happens to you, you have no idea. I know I’m not the first person in my circle to lose a parent. I don’t claim to have any unique experience with it, except that it was my experience, and one that I will treasure. The quickest back story is that my dad had been suffering with COPD and emphysema for years, I don’t know how many, but he had to have been...

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Five Years Now

Let’s just start off by saying this… There is ALL the emotions this year! Every single one! I miss him so much. I miss his smile, his touch, his laughter, his knowledge, his dedication, and his face. I write these posts for my present self, my future self, and for my daughter. Girls just always need to have all of the information about everything. Sarah is really curious about my pregnancy and her birth. What was it like to be pregnant? Were you stressed out when you were pregnant with me? Did it hurt? Did you carry low or...

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Death Positive Movement-Let’s Get Positive

The Death Positive Movement was coined by Caitlin Doughty and is defined by several tenets that basically state that positive changes can be made surrounding the discussions about death and dying. We need to be open to talk about death and dying, we need to break the silence of the funeral industry, we need to be active in changing the laws around death and dying, we need to ensure our choices are honored and that having a more hands on approach to caring for our dead can be a healing experience. It also follows the guidelines that the least...

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14 Do’s and Don’t to Help a Grieving Friend

 Practical Tips to help a friend “Heather, my friend just lost her husband, what can I do for her?” “What helped you the most after your husband died”   “I really want to do something, but I don’t know how to help?” I’ve gotten these questions from my friends, too often. I’ve struggled to answer because everyone is different in their grief, and there is no “one size fits all” answer. My answers below are based on my own experience as a wife with kids, when her husband has died, as well as my observations from clients. DON’T be...

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About Me

Hi I'm Heather Hill I am a Mom of three, sharing my experiences of becoming a widow while working as a funeral director. Share in my adventure of healing and helping. I'm just getting started, stay tuned for more content.

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