Author: heathermhill@gmail.com

What I want you to know as your funeral director

What I want you to know as your funeral director

Posted by | Aug 17, 2016 | , , , |

I want you to know that the idea of your typical funeral director is about to be changed, drastically. I see you pull into the parking lot and sit there, looking at the door. I’ve never seen anyone hop out of their car and walk into the building without pause. And why should you? You’re about to face probably the most difficult meeting you’ve ever had to face. This meeting makes it “real”. You’ll have to make decisions and face the fact that this is really happening. I try to meet you at the door, or open the door...

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When you cry with me, it really does help

When you cry with me, it really does help

Posted by | Aug 16, 2016 | , , |

Because I know they mattered to you too. I know that this loss was not just mine. I know you loved him too. I know that you’ll miss him and that you are in pain. I realize you’re trying to be strong for me but seeing you cry makes me realize how amazing he was to you too. I know you want to be strong for me, but I know you are hurting, so by trying to be so strong for me all the time, you’ll make me feel like I need to be strong all the time as...

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My empathy level runneth over, please don’t add to it

My empathy level runneth over, please don’t add to it

Posted by | Aug 16, 2016 | , |

Right after loss, I think the heart can only handle so much. Don’t call me and explain how you dealt with the death of your dog. Don’t tell me how devastated you were when you lost your grandmother. Don’t expect the normal “me”.  My normal exchange with you pre-death would have included me putting myself in your position and feeling your pain. Please don’t ask that of me now because I am barely hanging on. I selfishly don’t want to refill my cup of empathy because, I just cannot. I cannot be that friend for you right now. I...

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About Me

Hi I'm Heather Hill I am a Mom of three, sharing my experiences of becoming a widow while working as a funeral director. Share in my adventure of healing and helping. I'm just getting started, stay tuned for more content.

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